February 14, 2008
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Happy Single Awareness Day!
Ya know, as a person who is happily coupled off, I’m so sick and tired of all the bitching and moaning all you single people do about Valentine’s Day. “It’s just another day,” you whine. So if it’s just another day, why are you spending so much time and thought bitching about it?
“It’s just a Hallmark holiday,” you sneer. So… don’t buy Hallmark. And if it really is a holiday made up entirely by the greeting card industry, MAJOR props because hi, great marketing, great campaign that has taken over the whole country!
“It’s just a day to make people feel bad about being single,” you huff. SO DON’T FEEL BAD.
I have never felt bad on Valentine’s Day for being single. In fact, it’s usually – well, it used to be – the day that emphasized most to me just how loved I was, because when I was single, guys that were interested would go out of their way to send me stuff. I would laugh inside because I could care less about Valentine’s Day – in fact, I thought about it today, and it’s the least important “holiday” of the year to me. It’s usually cold, we don’t have the day off, and there aren’t any BBQs to go to (which push Memorial, Independence, and Labor day up a few notches!)! What good is this stupid day?
Look, THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER. On this day, when you’re in a couple, there’s a lot of pressure to perform. I can’t tell you how many times someone has asked me “What are you doing for Valentine’s Day?” and honestly, I’d like to find some married couple somewhere who never has sex anymore and ask them to be completely honest.
Husband: “Well I’m going to drop $200 on long stemmed roses because if I do anything less, everyone in the office will be horrified even though it’s none of their goddamn business. Then I’m going to take her to dinner at some place in the city and spend another $200 easily on tiny portions of food that neither of us will be able to see nor enjoy because it’s too damn little, and that the restaurant yesterday and tomorrow will only charge $100 for but because today is VALENTINE’S DAY they can get away with doubling the prices. I’ll hand her a bag from the jeweler I know she likes, but since we’ve been married 15 years, there isn’t any piece of jewelry I can get her that she really really wants but I have to in order to get laid and she’ll open it and coo over it, thank me. Then we’ll go home after she’s had a bit too much to drink, have sex, and drop to sleep hoping the kids don’t come in and see us passed out.”
Wife: “He’ll probably send me some roses, which I’ve told him a million times not to because I HATE ROSES, and everyone at the office will be up in my business asking me if he’s going to get lucky tonight and what else he’s planned and what we’re doing, then I’ll have to sit through dinner at the worst place in the city because he made reservations at the last minute after I told him 3 months ago what restaurant I really wanted to go to, without regard to this stupid “holiday” and then he’ll pull out a bag from the jeweler he thinks I like, and I’ll have to swallow my grimace and coo over a piece of ugly jewelry and he’ll look all hopeful like he’s going to get lucky tonight while I’m actually wishing we’d stayed home, spent some quality time with the kids, and put all this money towards that new washer/dryer I’ve been eyeing for a while, and the new dishwasher… I’ll keep drinking until I’m just tipsy enough that later on, when he makes his clumsy signature move that is the reason I fell in love with him, I’ll actually relent and let him have sex with me even though I haven’t felt sexy since I gave birth to the third kid who weighed over 10 lbs… and the whole time I’ll be thinking about all the shit I have to get done the next day that I couldn’t do today because we HAD TO celebrate VALENTINE’S DAY.”
What’s annoying me? People who ask me what I’m doing for Valentine’s Day this past week, when I’ve responded with either, “Oh, is that this week?” or “Nothing” (without a trace of annoyance) or “When is that again?” or “Oh… nothing, you?” have all said OMG WHAT’S WRONG? Are things okay with you and your bf?!
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Yeah, they are, we’re just past the point where we need a day to tell us what to do.
This started off so well but work started annoying the shit out of me. And still is. And I’m not going to be here tomorrow or all of next week, so this is the post you’ll probably keep seeing until I return… angry rant that makes me sound bitter. But I’m not. I just have no patience right now for anyone or anything and I’ve gotten interrupted so many times while writing this that it isn’t half the great, biting, sarcastic and funny piece I wanted it to be. Gahhh, here’s another interruption.
Beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep.
I’m off to Argentina for a week. Talk at you on the 25th, bitches!
Comments (187)
haha this didn’t come off so bad.. but yeah I get the shocked faces as well when I tell people I’m not doing anything. I was surprised my BF actually asked me what I wanted for v-day the other day. I looked at him funny bc after a few years already of not particular celebrating this holiday (we’re usually either snowboarding during that weekend or I’m on a business trip or tradeshow) he’s asking me this now.. and yeah I told him to just save his money so we can take another trip.. of course I can never say no to a FATASS dinner!! woot! (just not on v-day please).
@oomisslizzoo - haha i am so unromantic, i scheduled make up class for tonight since i can’t go on saturday. because… i’m leaving for argentina tomorrow. hahahahaha. yea that’s right, i’m not even going to be with him over the long weekend, either. let’s aim for dinner sometime in march perhaps?
@moonbunny - wait are you asking about dinner with me or your BF in March? haha I’m so confused. I’m in the middle of planning a west coast trip for snowboarding for March. My March schedule should hopefully be more defined when you return from Argentina. Let’s touch base then?
@oomisslizzoo - HAHAHAHHA did you just say touch base to me?!?! we’re not business contacts, you dork!! hahahahahahaha. but yea, doesn’t matter, i was honestly thinking “maybe a few months from now when it’s warm out and things have calmed down” but either way =D
that pretty much sums up the life of married couples. i can totally relate. sigh
i feel just as lonely now as when i used to be single on v-day.
granted there are a lot of stupid ass holidays out there, i think it’s nice to have these holidays to remind us sometimes that we should look around and actually enjoy living as opposed to just living life just waiting to die, as some do, in a very boring fashion. what do you live for? i live for my loved ones and v-day is one of those days where there’s an excuse to be extra silly and lovey dovey and celebrate our love. too bad my sentiments are not shared.
@YJK76 - i live to be happy, and to make the people i like/love around me happy as well. i think you and i think similarly on a lot of things, and our friends/family/loved ones being of the utmost importance seems to be one of them. i see your point- i never really thought of it as an ‘excuse to be extra silly’, i’m usually more stressed out about all the crap i have to do or want to do. so i try to spread it out instead of cramming it into one day – some may say that makes it less special, some may say it makes it more special, i just want those around me to be happy. i sent my mom flowers last year and she was thrilled (even tho the flowers turned out to be crappy, i think it was ftd or 1800flowers… one of those places sucks, the one that is always having deals). i guess it’s also because this year vday falls during a stressful week for me in every possible way that i was just like, you know what, baby? let’s forget doing anything, and just relax. i admit tho that in years past i’ve partially wished for something romantic, and sometimes my wish comes true, sometimes it doesn’t … relationships are so hard though. like if something is important to one person, the other person “should” respect that but then on the other hand, if it conflicts majorly with something the other person finds important…. ahhh… the bliss of newlyweddedness i guess.
hope things resolve themselves!
not sad nor happy. just going to drink my weight tonight and hit on everything with two legs. =D
Have fun in Argentina chica!
I Loooove V-Day because I like to exercise my Grumpy McAngrypants and rants about the stupid diamond industry taking over a romantic day. See, secretly I am a Romantic.
happy jailed-letter-writing-saint day !
haha i like your post. I’m single and i like valentines day, it gives me a chance to dress up and show some love to all of my beautiful single friends, those girls are awesome haha.
And sorry for all of the stress that you couples have to go through.
Its V-Day spread the love, show some love.
hahah i’m not even going out to dinner with my bf, i’m having it with a friend instead while my bf plays basketball >_>
Meh, I feel lonely when I want to. lol.
But Valentine’s Day basically rocks because of the Spider Man cards.
I’d already written up Valentine’s last year in a rather cranky manner; [ http://www.xanga.com/Drakonskyr/569985900/item.html ] but now that I’ve got a girlfriend, looking back it’s obvious I was single…and displeased about the whole matter.
Bah, stupid html. Bah, stupid html; Valentine’s Bitterness!
That’s what I meant.
I am so not cranky!
NO LOVE!
“I have never felt bad on Valentine’s Day for being single. In fact, it’s usually – well, it used to be – the day that emphasized most to me just how loved I was, because when I was single, guys that were interested would go out of their way to send me stuff. I would laugh inside because I could care less about Valentine’s Day – in fact, I thought about it today, and it’s the least important “holiday” of the year to me. It’s usually cold, we don’t have the day off, and there aren’t any BBQs to go to (which push Memorial, Independence, and Labor day up a few notches!)! What good is this stupid day?”
Congratulations. I’ve finally met one of the bitch girls that I hear about. I usually just say “well… she probably just rejected you because she didn’t know how to react.” But now I know that there really are just BITCHES out there like you.
I don’t care what you say. And I don’t know if what you said was true… but whatever the case…that was the meanest most selfish thing that I have ever read.
Congrats once again.
And please don’t write back. I won’t read it.
Well look at it this way, why should you be in a relationship just to make one person happy when you could stay single and make hundreds happy? ;P
Valentine’s Day is sad really. Why do people feel that they have to wait for a specific day to really ‘show someone love’? Love knows no time, knows no day, and if you think it does, then I feel sad for you.
And you don’t have to be with someone to enjoy the day. If you have even one friend, then there you go. Call and say hi. Go for coffee if you feel compelled to celebrate the day.
Brilliant post.
I like your style.
Cheers,
Skylar
Valentines is about letting people know you love them
or at least, that’s the way it is for me, throughout singleness and relationships.
It isn’t suppose to cause all this conflict or controversy, it’s just a day to celebrate love.
geeze, some people act as though it is a personal attack against singles, and it’s not. If you are single, you should embrace the opportunity to let someone know you like them, and if you don’t like anyone ‘that way’, then let your friends know how nice they are.
And your interpretation of the valentines celebration of a married couple is ridiculous. completely ridiculous, and I’m not laughing. Any couple that are so unaware of each other don’t deserve to celebrate anything anyway.
valentines day is just a day of obligation, period.
It’s really simple people. Do not let one day of the year dictate who you are as a person or how it is that you live your life. Draw your source of happiness from within instead of external sources.
nice.
All you single people?
Ain’t that an ignorant generalization.
You’ve got a good point there. I always despised Valentine’s Day ’cause it’s really pointless. As pointless as writing with a broken pencil [get it? haha]. Why do people choose to wait until today to express their love to someone? Why not everyday, or some days, as a surprise? I’d really rather have cute little surprises then some chocolates and roses on Valentine’s Day. All these meaningless holidays scattered across the calendar are useless. Nice post.
Some people make a big deal out of certain days. Some don’t. Neither should get pissed at the other’s way of doing things.
Personally I don’t feel bound to certain days, but it’s still fun to get involved.
Wah….
let’s bitch some more, shall we?
You say you had guys interested in you who sent you things… What about those people who no one will ever attempt to make happy?
Never did understand why people get depressed on Valentine’s.
Granted, the statements you put forth come off incredibly poorly regardless of which side you’re espousing.
Just found this through the front page, but this is good. I think the best out of all the V-Day posts I have read. Nice work.
yeah i’m single and pretending to be happy and trying to appear happy. pathetic.
hahahahaha. I like Valentine’s Day because all the chocolates go on sale the day after. Yum!
v-day is overrated. i don’t think it’s bad to be reminded to tell our loved ones that we actually DO love them, but goodness gracious, do we really need all this crap that folks push on us? cards, jewelry, candy, flowers? well, they aren’t necessary. i’d prefer to randomly receive something straight from the heart – it doesn’t have to be on v-day, since it’s really not that big of a deal to us as a couple – because that speaks much louder than getting/giving some played out gifts because that’s what we’re supposed to do. last year, my boyfriend sent me a bouquet of my favorite flowers for v-day, but that was because he wanted to send me flowers that he knows i love, not because he had to (which made all the difference). this year, we’ll probably go for a walk or something, since spending time with each other beats out getting flowers, candy, and feeling like we just HAAAD to do something today because it’s a “special day.” in any case, our anniversary is much more special to us as a couple, because it is all ours!
@Nohman -
Um, also wanted to add this: Sometimes, Valentine’s Day is about going through the motions for me, but sometimes, those motions help lead to my feelings. My girlfriend and I are very much “We don’t need to be told when we love each other” and don’t make a big thing out of Valentine’s Day (or our anniversary, for that matter) but still, I thought I would do something nice for her. I think it was because I knew everyone at the office, like you said, would have to ask “Well what’s the matter, etc” So I planned and did some stuff, and as I kept doing it, making some small sacrifices in my own life, I really started to realize how much I cared for her to go out of my way so she would feel comfortable, and maybe even special, in front of her co-workers. I think in this way, keeping up appearances really helped me realize how much I love her…
I agree. Valentimes should not be this big of a deal. I don’t have a boyfriend, but when I do, I would be happy with just a hug or maybe a card. I’m not depending on any great gifts or displays of affection. Of course, my love language is quality time, so that probably has something to do with it…haha.
ah, the shocked face when one answers “nothing”. Something that is all to familiar to this girl. Great post!
i stopped doing vday in any big way after the first vday w g (spent 200 on teeny food portions where i had to have 4 sourdough rolls just to feel somewhat full)
mmmm… salmon bento… :drool:
Nice bentos.
LOL! I totally agree on the bitching part. They keep saying “It’s an ordinary day” blah blah blah, but they keep whining anyway, and scheduling a “singles convention” so they can all bitch and whine all night.
I like this post a lot, and I agree with it.
I can’t stand people who are overly bitter about Valentine’s Day. I’ve been single on Valentine’s Day, but I didn’t try to ruin for everyone around me, so why do other people have to do the same? You can have fun on Val Day without a lover – celebrate with your family or friends. My parents always did something for V-Day with my sister and me. There’s no reason for anyone to be bitter. It’s annoying and all it does is take away from others’ enjoyment of the holiday. Leave it be.
Christmas has been “commercialized” too. So what? At least both of these holidays work to bring people closer together. That’s what’s important. I don’t care if companies are making big bucks off of some silly cards, at least my family/boyfriend/friends are happy together.
Also, it’s not like I really celebrate V-Day with my boyfriend. We’re currently long distance, and I won’t see him again until May. My celebration of V-day with my boyfriend is basically playing some Final Fantasy XI online, or maybe a few rounds on Counterstrike or something, followed by a nice phone call before sleeping. I can’t spend V-Day with my boyfriend or doing anything special, but am I bitter? Do I get upset at people hugging or kissing in public, or scoff at pink and white candies?
No, I don’t. Why should anybody else? If you aren’t happy, deal with it, and go talk to your friends or family about it. Try to fix it. Don’t try to ruin it for the rest of us. If you don’t have somebody and you don’t want to get some candy for your best friend, then treat the day like a normal day, because that’s all it really is. I don’t get why so many people have to get so worked up over a single day of the year that at least brings some couples and families closer together.
I completely agree…good post.
I like your site…will be back for more. I’m jealous you are going to Argentina. Have fun!!
hm..a very interesting read
i dont know you.
but i’m also coupled off.
and i dont really care much about valentines day.
never really have either.
and you just wrote everything ive wanted to say.
and exactly how i wouldve wanted it said.
so thank you.
I can’t imagine what sort of people you must be surrounding yourself with, but…maybe you should get a new circle of friends?
Ah screw you. Way to put down the lonely people when you have somebody. Let’s see how up on V-day you are when your current boyfriend dumps you.
great post.
Good point, but do you realize your saying for these people to stop bitching, and stop caring and wasting their time on it. If you have a significant other, why are you so worried about it? Why don’t you take your own advice? Cause all your doing is the same thing those people are doing, just instead your bitching about them bitching about it.
i’ve been on both sides of the spectrum for valentine’s day and i can honestly say i don’t care for it on either end. Overall it just isn’t my favorite day. I feel like if you really love someone you should show them you love them every day and not just on Valentine’s day, by buying them a dozen roses that are just going to die three days later. That’s a waste of money and often times a waste of effort.
You made a lot of good points though, the green is not always greener.
Well this is the shittiest entry I’ve ever read.
How you ever got featured, I’ll never fucking know.
i am single. i love being single. i just thinks its funny that somehow people mix obligatory “love” with meaning. i also find it funny that people celebrate Valentine’s Day as if it is about love, when really, there is nothing lovely about the history and origin of the day.
argentina!! have fun!
so true, so freakin’ true lol
haha well-written article
Awesome post. I hate people who bitch about Valentine’s day. Yeah, it was invented by greeting card companies – but Santa Claus as we know him was invented by Coca Cola and the diamond engagement ring was popularized by De Beers. We have lots of traditions handed to us by powerful corporations – and like you said, good for them for being such great marketers! It’s the American way. And the people who whine about consumerism on Valentine’s day don’t whine about consumerism the rest of the year. It’s not because it’s a consumerist holiday that they hate it. They hate it because they’re bitter and lonely. I’ve been single plenty of valentine’s days and I have never really cared. I treat myself – eat a little chocolate, hang out with friends, and I wait in anticipation of all the V-day candy to be 50% off on February 15th. People need to relax.
Great point! I get so annoyed at some of my single friends who complain all the time. and yet, when they have interest in a person, do they ever even try and hook up w/ them? no. It’s their fault they are single I think. lol.
As a happily engaged couple, we don’t celebrate Valentines day. Unlike you, I was very bitter when I was single during V-day, so when I met my fiance 7 years ago, I vowed never to celebrate it…why celebrate a holiday that made me feel so shitty? Should I feel RELIEVED that I’m able to celebrate this holiday?
I was a single person who bitched about the holiday, so now I’m a coupled person that ignores it entirely…totally works for me 
Love your blog entry! Its fun to see peoples reasons for celebrating/not celebrating this most debated of holidays!
Nice troll, er, I uh mean, post.
Well, I got a bit on this one.
1) I may be single, but I would think it a fallacy to generalize that EVERYONE except you are single.
2) V-day is pointless. but come on, You won’t believe in Cupid, but you would rather fancy leprechauns, or groundhogs? No, Thank You, Easter Bunny.
And there’s always talk about Santa Claus….
3) I personally work at a fine dining restaurant, and I know that people usually will NOT spend $200 on food there, unless they want to, and if they do, they will get not only quality food, but quite a bit.
4) I’ve only had one gf during V-day. I’m not with her anymore, and it really didn’t matter.
But women, being as difficult and mind-gaming as they are, will always say “No, I don’t want anything for V-day” and when you don’t, shit hits the fan. I’ve seen this happen before.
You try to test us guys when you say that, to “see if were concerned about you.” and since we took what you said at face value, you get angry.
(this may be an offensive generalization on it’s own, but once again, I’ve seen it happen so many times.)
5) As a matter of fact, I think every guy would be ok with it if there werent a V-day, just b/c we don’t profit from it. My friend made up a great V-day for guys: “Steak and a Blowjob day”, which is on March 14.
6) I think you shouldn’t act so butt hurt over the fact that singles act butt hurt over V-day. just take it in stride, believe in futility that you really are better than everyone else because you have a temporary significant other, and go on with your life. Its just 24 hours.
7)This goes back to #s 4 and 5: How about being straight up with us guys for once, and tell us that you dont want to celebrate V-day, instead of playing mind games and being silent? It would save us guys a lot of worry, I’m sure.
8) I do nice things for my gf’s because I feel they’re worth it. I don’t think a holiday dictates me to do that.
I let it just for that one time, just to see how it would feel. No different really.
And I don’t know where you got your copypasta from, but if women thought about what they needed more often than what they wanted, there would be a lot less need for V-day.
a woman wanting a dishwasher? a washer/dryer?
spending time with kids?
Now you’re playing into the 1950s stereotypical “House Mom”.
But anyway, I digress.
thanks you for giving me something to think about, however.
Yes, with what pikapril25 says, “Why do people choose to wait until today to express their love to someone? Why not everyday?….”
I always call my mom and dad every day and before I hang up tell them I love them. It’s just something people should do and not wait until today.
I did enjoy handing out those valentine’s cards in elementary school, but now that i’m older (and have never had a bf) i don’t really pay attention to it. What the bitter people need to do is be HAPPY for the people who are with someone, or just ignore it. Duh.
Nice post.
nah, V-Day’s just not my thang, single or otherwise. but you made a point there, no need to be moaning and groaning if you are single, i pity them couples too, and the pressure to have to do something on a ‘just another day’. ha.
haha…i’m probably the worst here
I’m playing Halo3 all night because of the Valentine’s Day matchmaking play list. =D
I hated the day when I was coupled. I still said all the crap about it being another day or it’s a Hallmark holiday. For six years I had to scramble to out do myself from last year. I hated it.
And “the grass is always greener” can’t be more true. Now I’m on the single side of the fence and I have to say.. I love watching all the coupled people scurry about trying to impress their sig. other. For example, today in drafting class, I saw a guy almost have a melt down because he couldn’t think of anything to do for his new girlfriend.
Just remember, it’s always better to do something nice for someone else on a day you’re not expected to do it.
you totally stole the words right out of my mouth
I enjoyed reading this.
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well… lol you said “i couldn’t care less” in the middle of your post, but then why did u write a long post about valentine’s day if you couldn’t care less? i think there’s nothing wrong with ppl not wanting couples to throw “love” in their faces when they’re single. but yeah, i normally ignore the whole thing. it’s a waste of time to complain.
well… lol you said “i couldn’t care less” in the middle of your post, but then why did u write a long post about valentine’s day if you couldn’t care less? i think there’s nothing wrong with ppl not wanting couples to throw “love” in their faces when they’re single. but yeah, i normally ignore the whole thing. it’s a waste of time to complain.
They sound like friends don’t exist. Lover relationships might not even last long, but friendship could definitely stay longer than most dating relationships.
It’s pointless. But I can’t resist a smile when I see all those flowers everywhere! It’s all so pretty. It gets a bit pathetic after 5 minutes in a crowd though – 2 out of 5 men are holding a bouquet or a rose. Ugh.
Happy Valentine’s Day
happy vagina day
What’s the point of hooking up if it isn’t any better than being single?
Valentine’s Day could just be a day to remind ourselves to tell the people that we love that we love them….
But your post was interesting.
I like this post. I think it’s something guys should read, at least the bit about the wife’s interpretation of her husband’s efforts. I don’t think most guys have any idea what to do for the woman they love. Sad but true.
I got all concerned about my life about four days ago, knowing Valentines day was coming and feeling sad about… stuff. But then I totally forgot because this week has been busy. At the end of a surreal day I realized I had just had Valentine’s day. My post is an expression of that realization, and about how much it meant to me in the end.
I am not bitching about v-day but i do agree with the point the single people bitch to much about it
today sucked serious balls though
gf broke up with me
other wise it is amusing to watch all the “love” going round
why the fuck does there have to be a day to tell people what they should already be doing?
to be quite honest, i think most of the couples are rather *not doing* anything on a Valentines Day. lol.
personally i dont mind at all. just spending the day with those who you love should be enough, no? :]
I just don’t celebrate v-day. I don’t see the importance of this day. *shrug*
And I can eat chocolate whenever I want
Valentine’s Day is just another day to me. I’m not whining. The tone is neutral. I mean, it’s not like the sky turns pink and I see heart-shaped bubbles in the air on Valentine’s Day. If anything, it would be: everything is so much more expensive.
Good for you! I liked what you had to say.
~~Mary~~
GOOD ONE! YEAH!!
nice bento too, btw!
LOLs At The Wifes Monologue Thing… >.>
Vday is too commercialised. It’s just a day for the shops to make $ and the singles to feel lonely. I don’t see any special thing about Vday. What is the point if the couples don’t get along well normally?
hahahahaha. that’s soO funny and true. it is NOT an important holiday. single ppl really do like this day though…so they can bitch and complain. i’ve never done so when single either. it’s just a waste of time. and who the heck cares anyways?! not i.
so yeah…i have a bf, but we didn’t do anything. he had to work. so i guess we’re just chillin’ in tonight. yay! valentines day is def overrated. it’s just another day…that’s either pink or red when thought of. great post. very funny.
i didn’t think i was bitching and whining in the first place until i read this thread muahah
lol wow you caused quite a stir in here lady.
I have never felt really bad about being single on Valentine day, I just treat it as any other day of the year.
hey!!Although i am not an English-Speaker,i am not really understand what you said,i can see that you wanted to cheer up the people who’s alone or not in couples!!
Your post is really brilliant~Support!(i hope you can get my meaning= =”)
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1. And he said to them all, If any man will come after me (Jesus Christ), let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. Luke 9:23 (KJV)
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If you die in your sin, you will go to HELL! Today is the day of salvation! Accept Jesus Christ for He is your only hope!
(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.) 2 Corinthians 6:2 (KJV)
Christ was beaten & crucified, shed blood blood, died and ROSE again to save u from your defining and abominable sins (lust, pride, pre-marital sex, one lie, masturbation, sodomy including homosexuality, murder, hatred, rebellion, disobedience against parents, pre-marital touching & kissing)!
everyday should we give love to people we love
That is soooooo funny! Valentine’s ( and this is the only comparison I will make as any other day ) is the only day where we celebrate something we should be celebrating every day. Kinda like Christmas except it is for your significant other. And for you single people who complain about it? Be happy enough with yourselves to celebrate the life you do have.
is that hamloaf? mmm…
V-day is just another day…it’s over-rated. I’m totally on yourside gurlie..
Great blog!
“Well I’m going to drop $200 on long stemmed roses because if I do anything less, everyone in the office will be horrified even though it’s none of their goddamn business.”
I like this post…I have a very similar opinion.
yes… i’m a bitching and moaning person.
but… you don’t need to spend that much money just to make it a nice day.
its not a competition, just a day to do something special, not necessarily *big*
Valentine’s Day is nice, but can be rather inconvenient and petty at times. I think too many people try to make broad generalizations and standards to apply to everyone… without realizing that everyone has their own views and opinions about this particular day.
Personally, I’m tired of people bitching about how it’s a meaningless Hallmark holiday. For me, I’m just happy that after three years of dating, I was actually able to be in the same location with my boyfriend for the evening. We didn’t do anything particularly special, but we were together, and hey, that’s something for us.
That is awesome!!!
hahaha i enjoyed reading this.
I agree completely. I had a wonderful dinner with my boyfriend but we spent time together like we always do and I flat out said that it wasn’t all that important to me to do stuff on Valentine’s Day. I’ve been single for most of my life on Valentine’s Day and it hasn’t killed me yet. *shrug* It’s the people that think they have to be in a relationship that whine and complain the most.
When one is head over heels in love with another person, any excuse, even an overly commercialized one like Valentine’s Day, is good enough for me. I love my wife more with each passing day, and having a day set aside to celebrate that love in a special way is fine with me. (BTW, we’ve been married nearly 34 years and it just keeps getting better and better.)
This is a great post! I’m glad I found it. You make great points. I’m married, and I get the “OMG what’s wrong?!” Thing if I am not ooey gooey gushing over some kind of red and pink themed crap on Valentine’s Day. Either that or I’m accused of being bitter because I “must not have gotten something for V-day”. I hate Valentine’s Day because it’s stupid, whether you’re single or not, simple as that. Some people equate it to Christmas, I swear. I loved what you wrote about the married side of V-day too, so true, LOL. Thanks again!
imagine if you only had one nostril, and hadn’t gotten any action for the past 10 years, nor a simple valentine note saying “will you be my valentine, circle [yes] [no]” for the past 10 valentines days, and tell me then that valentines day means nothing.
hmph!
maybe having one nostril is a bit extreme, but you get my point! let the bitter ones bitch! woman!
lol now i sound bitter…
haha, i thought this entry was pretty funny/sarcastice/great
anyways, nice post! i totally agree with you. i’m single and i could care less that it was valentine’s day. and i love that husband/wife part, haha!
i agree with pikapril25, the commentor above me, on the topic of surprising that special someone on a regular old day! that would really be sweet
My favorite was yesterday when I told a guy I didn’t have a Valentine then he proceeded going into this long descriptive explaination of all the sweet things that his girfriend did for him.
whoa, you’re feistybento! awesome. and yeah.. what’s the point of having one day to celebrate somebody, when really, you should be enjoying every day with that person? nice post.
You think that it could be a holiday created entirely to brain wash and market some sort of campaign and product? I think you have it backwards. Marketers don’t make holidays. They use holidays, or appeal to authority, or jokes, or whatever else it takes to sell a product. The only thing they really make is something that people will buy. Which on a lot of occasions people do buy. I couldn’t really imagine why though. I mean maybe they don’t have any creativity to do anything else from all the brainwashing the television has done. Should we throw out all the tv’s and completely decimate the media industry because you think that a holiday is making people bitch about a holiday and making something SPECIAL for one day. But I mean really are you complaining about all the valentines day gifts that people sell or just about people GIVING a shit about you?!?!
So yeah you also complain about people complaining about being alone on a holiday that celebrates couples. And the fact that they are alone and felt bad was more than likely a pre-existing problem. Which means yeah…their lonely and they obviously don’t have anyone close to talk to. So why add insult to injury because you are happy being off on you’re own when you see someone that could probably use a little compassion. I mean would you tell a cancer patient “suck it up you little baby, you’re going to die soon anyways”. Oh my god I mean it’s a holiday! Know what that means? It means that it was created for special day where everyone tries to at least come together from their busy days and from themselves and think about another. Just like christmas, just like easter, just like chanakuh or kwanza or whatever holiday. Except on this holiday is more like musical chairs. So people do come together, but ooooooo only for the person that their with. Also, maybe things are better realized if people do it by the mass. Because MAYBE we’re stronger as a union than indiviudals. Maybe it’s not just about reminding who we’re with that we love them. But reminding everybody else that LOVE IS IMPORTANT!
I understand that you’re probably saying that essential those people that are miserable will be miserable regardless. But are you also saying for everyone to be like you as well? Because when you tell people to shut up and then tell them that you never were like them you’re basically saying you’re better than them because you’re content being alone. So congratu-fucking-lations (yes this is not a word) for solving the world’s depression problems through a venting-rant. Maybe they can all just move on and be completely senseless and numb to the fact that there is a problem. And just because their trying to get some kind of contact or attention doesn’t mean that they are bitchy and whiny. It means that they’re lonely. Wanna hear something cool? People date and get married because they DON’T want to be lonely. People are with someone in a relationship because they want to feel a connection and have CONTACT AND ATTENTION. Do you see a pattern here. Maybe those people want what others have if that wasn’t obvious. And yes I did read about the people with problems in their relationship that you wrote. But have you ever heard of the saying “it is better to love and lost than to never have loved at all”. Which means maybe those people would rather have a chance at fucking things up than to not fuck up at all. That should be pretty conclusive if you look at the people that don’t have something versus the people that do.
I suppose it’s pretty recognizable that you would write something like this from you’re quote at the top. But I’d like to see you say that while you watch someone in a burning fire die. “Oh you’re trapped under a burning house beam?” AWWWWW that’s too bad for you. “Save yourself!” I know you didn’t mean to teach yourself to save yourself. Because if that were true you’d be expressing you’re testimonial’s on how you saved yourself rather than the fact that you did. You’re helping no one by telling them how better off you are. You want to help them save themselves? Tell them they do have friends or they are special or compliment them or laugh at their jokes, if they don’t have any then just tell them their funny anyways. I mean what kind of world is this where we have nothing else better to do than fight fire with fire and have no decency to at least help pick up the pieces?
Happy Valentines Day.
-Shon, Jae Suk
You think that it could be a holiday created entirely to brain wash and market some sort of campaign and product? I think you have it backwards. Marketers don’t make holidays. They use holidays, or appeal to authority, or jokes, or whatever else it takes to sell a product. The only thing they really make is something that people will buy. Which on a lot of occasions people do buy. I couldn’t really imagine why though. I mean maybe they don’t have any creativity to do anything else from all the brainwashing the television has done. Should we throw out all the tv’s and completely decimate the media industry because you think that a holiday is making people bitch about a holiday and making something SPECIAL for one day. But I mean really are you complaining about all the valentines day gifts that people sell or just about people GIVING a shit about you?!?!
So yeah you also complain about people complaining about being alone on a holiday that celebrates couples. And the fact that they are alone and felt bad was more than likely a pre-existing problem. Which means yeah…their lonely and they obviously don’t have anyone close to talk to. So why add insult to injury because you are happy being off on you’re own when you see someone that could probably use a little compassion. I mean would you tell a cancer patient “suck it up you little baby, you’re going to die soon anyways”. Oh my god I mean it’s a holiday! Know what that means? It means that it was created for special day where everyone tries to at least come together from their busy days and from themselves and think about another. Just like christmas, just like easter, just like chanakuh or kwanza or whatever holiday. Except on this holiday is more like musical chairs. So people do come together, but ooooooo only for the person that their with. Also, maybe things are better realized if people do it by the mass. Because MAYBE we’re stronger as a union than indiviudals. Maybe it’s not just about reminding who we’re with that we love them. But reminding everybody else that LOVE IS IMPORTANT!
I understand that you’re probably saying that essential those people that are miserable will be miserable regardless. But are you also saying for everyone to be like you as well? Because when you tell people to shut up and then tell them that you never were like them you’re basically saying you’re better than them because you’re content being alone. So congratu-fucking-lations (yes this is not a word) for solving the world’s depression problems through a venting-rant. Maybe they can all just move on and be completely senseless and numb to the fact that there is a problem. And just because their trying to get some kind of contact or attention doesn’t mean that they are bitchy and whiny. It means that they’re lonely. Wanna hear something cool? People date and get married because they DON’T want to be lonely. People are with someone in a relationship because they want to feel a connection and have CONTACT AND ATTENTION. Do you see a pattern here. Maybe those people want what others have if that wasn’t obvious. And yes I did read about the people with problems in their relationship that you wrote. But have you ever heard of the saying “it is better to love and lost than to never have loved at all”. Which means maybe those people would rather have a chance at fucking things up than to not fuck up at all. That should be pretty conclusive if you look at the people that don’t have something versus the people that do.
I suppose it’s pretty recognizable that you would write something like this from you’re quote at the top. But I’d like to see you say that while you watch someone in a burning fire die. “Oh you’re trapped under a burning house beam?” AWWWWW that’s too bad for you. “Save yourself!” I know you didn’t mean to teach yourself to save yourself. Because if that were true you’d be expressing you’re testimonial’s on how you saved yourself rather than the fact that you did. You’re helping no one by telling them how better off you are. You want to help them save themselves? Tell them they do have friends or they are special or compliment them or laugh at their jokes, if they don’t have any then just tell them their funny anyways. I mean what kind of world is this where we have nothing else better to do than fight fire with fire and have no decency to at least help pick up the pieces?
Happy Valentines Day.
-Shon, Jae Suk
Double post…
Valentine’s is up to you to make it a nice holiday of a bad one regaurdless if your single or not. I think too much pressure is on to make this holiday a big deal…
I dont know girl, that was pretty swayed towards bitter for someone who claims not to be biased. You Know how you feel though! If you do care about someone, and they care about you……..even though you may have had a bad day at work…..atleast put your arms around each other (yes, especially but not because of Valentine’s Day) and smile!
random props. That husband and wife bit was pretty elaborate.
This made me laugh so hard…no, that wasn’t a compliment. I represent the ninety percent of single men and women who don’t give a care in the world for valentines day…why? because it’s some lame excuse for restaurants and buisnessess to take advantage of the love-sick teenagers of america? No…honestly, valentines day is a great day, it represents love…what is wrong with setting aside an ENTIRE day and saying, “HEY! I love you…and I want the world to know it…” there is nothing wrong with giving that person you love an ENTIRE day for themselves where they have to worry about NOTHING!
What made me laugh was your insistence that the holiday means nothing to you, and that people who wine about being single annoy you…but heres the thing…i counted at least six cuss words and the Lords name in vain…am i saying you are evil for cussing? no! I am saying…if you are so gosh darned impartial, why flip a lid because other people care?
If you enjoy having someone take care of you when your sick, but someone else likes taking care of themselves, do you want them calling you a whiney little baby who needs her mommy to take care of her? of course not. So why not lay off of the people who want to feel loved but DONT have twenty guys/girls hanging on them. Not everybody is secure enough in THEMSELVES to not care about having someone love them.
Don
t think i am angry or lashing out at you, i am just trying to make a point that will possibly make you think…
The fact that this entry was chosen for featured content speaks reflects really poorly on the xanga moderators. I am very seldom impressed with the “featured content” but I have to say that why they chose this mystifies me completely. Just from the topic you have selected and your style of wording I would have assumed you were about 16, were it not for the fact that you have your birthday on the mainpage.
Just as a word of warning, you ought not to be so cocky because you can find yourself dumped in a second and never see it coming. My last girlfriend never saw it coming and I dumped her far having far less of an attitude than you have displayed here.
not all of us single folk are valentines day haters. but i kind of like being entertained by the people that are.
Honestly,this is from my point of view the kind of thing that irritates me. If single people don’t like being single,especially on Valentines day,why should they not be allowed to show their displeasure? After all these people have feelings too right? So why should they not have the right to express them? if they are upset,hurt,or angry that they are single,mainly if they feel they shouldnt be single,then they have just as much a right to whine about it,as anyone else does.
Plus that whole Married couple part is complete Heresay! How do you know that that is what the guy and girl would think? Maybe the girl would actually think that he will take her to her Favorite resturant or something,and be excited about it.
You say that if you are in a relationship on valentines day that you are pressured to perform,that is true,however maybe thats what some people want,maybe being single to them makes the day seem boring,they want that extra challenge of being pressured to perform,to show they can perform.
hahaha what a coincidence that I found this post… that you wrote… I was feeling the same way! I think of this day as more of a reminder day for those who take their loved ones for granted everyday so they just scramble everything and jumble it into one day… to make up the rest of the year. Anyways, funny post.
Teehee. I kinda agree. My Vday ain’t that special either. But I ain’t complaining.
Hope you enjoyed your day, just like any other day.
oh my god. i could not agree with you more. i HATE when people ask “so what are you guys doing for valentines day ?” or worse, “so what did he get you for valentines day ?” i hate hate hate it, to the point where i STRESS about the pressure. god, finally, someone who understands me.
Single or coupled, all the same. It’s just another day-
i fully agree. V-day is a regular day for someone who is still seeking his true love, and a day for the couples to express and emphasize how important their partners are.
in any case, time is the most luxurious thing in our life, and we had better cherish it.
this is the first year i actually got something for valentines day. my first boyfriend and stuff so it was supposed to be a whole big deal and stuffs… i surprised him with an inside joke and some cookies and he surprised me with a teddy bear gift. we didnt do much… hung with the family, watched across the universe. it was probably the best valentines because it was so simple and not thought out at all.
hope everyone elses was fun and not stressful!
This is SO TRUE…
…so much anger
Wished I hadn’t been one of those single people whining and stuff. Eh, I was more mad than whining anyway. People just keep asking that question and sometimes they’d be like, “Oh I could hook you up with someone.” My reply, “Um.. no. I HATE hook ups.” Makes me feel like a hooker, then feel like a dope for going out with someone I don’t even know?! Geez… Then they show their valentine gifts and balloons in my face and happy go lucky and stuff. Oh, well… get me more mad. This years Valentine was the most boring one ever. Ever since that day came… now I don’t think Valentine’s Day is really necessary to show someone how much you love them. It should be EVERY DAY. [sighs] But this…. this day gotta be in the way of ONE day to show love… or like from a secret admirer (does anyone even do that anymore?). Anyways, thanks for this post. I enjoy it =] I may show this to other people who are more whiny than I was.
People are funny.
Wow! Hard to believe the madness is only one month away, Cat wait till the games begin, I am also counting on making a little extra cash on the side betting on them, the last 2 years have been good to me and I have made a little extra at wagerweb.com March Madness hope I make it a lucky 3 this year
i got my wisdom teeth pulled out on valentines day! wooo hoooo!
mmmm mac and cheese.
and this:
“It’s just a Hallmark holiday,” you sneer. So… don’t buy Hallmark. And if it really is a holiday made up entirely by the greeting card industry, MAJOR props because hi, great marketing, great campaign that has taken over the whole country!
:hug: hahaha. i love you.
LOL, reading your “couple scenerio” was great! Nice entry! Have fun in Argentina.
I actually didnt read your whole entry. For the record, Valentine’s day is a beautiful holiday. And I am single. But I still had fun. It gives people motivation to profess their love to someone. I went to a singles party on Valentines day with my friends and it was fun. Aside from seeing couples exchange gifts and wearing red, it really was just another ordinary day.
just browsin–I’m single, and I happily spent the day before v-day walking around after walk, watching all the men scramble for last minute gifts. then v-day, walking down the st, watchin all the traffic, the lines at the eateries, and the satisfaction that i did NOT have to deal with ANY of it
yo ur blog rocks chik!! i dig ur style and sarcasm. I’m single and this V-day was awesome cuz even though i lack the bf i still have tons of friends that i shared my luv with. Enjoy Argentina killa!!!!!
Hi, Moonbunny,
I wanted to agree with you about Valentine’s Day although I have not been in a relationship during Valentine’s Day except for 1999, 2003, and 2004.
Whenever I have had cause to celebrate, I have more often gone the route of poetry and genuine gestures, rather than flowers and candy. And whenever I have not had reason to celebrate, the most I do is ask others how their Valentine’s Day has gone. That’s been about it.
If you decide to visit my Xanga site, you’ll find that I have been delinquent in posting. I have been too busy with substitute teaching and Facebook, among other things.
God bless you and your relationship,
-DI Edifice
That’s not very nice. There are people out there who are lonely and sad on that day, and the existence of the holiday only serves to remind them of their own loneliness and sadness, meanwhile you’re happily paired off, and you want to complain about the sad and lonely people? That IS pretty cold.
Maybe all those people who are asking you what you’re doing then are surprised that you say “nothing” because unlike some people, you have someone to do something special FOR. I suggest grateful for what you have and not kicking unhappy people while they’re down, because karma can be quite unpleasant.
Regardless of how my life is going, when a holiday comes around I try to enjoy it and make the most of the day. But that’s just me
i think the candy-pink background expresses you better than you do. which is saying something. because a lot more comes out of your generalizations than you are even aware.
you have to sympathy and compassion for others. you should try sympathizing. even if it is just an economic scheme. there are people out there that don’t get all the attention u get….u should think about that!
I didn’t read it, but the title caught my eye.
my friends and I call v-day HAPPY SINGLES AWARENESS DAY!
So, yeah.
@DontBeLeftBehind - Well shit, man, he fucking rose again. I don’t see where he comes off all that much worse in the end – most people end up being dead.
To everyone else: Don’t mind me, I just have a certain hatred for evangelists.
I personally hated Valentine’s Day more than I usually do this year because people kept telling me to “ask a girl out”, or eat some of my chocolate” even though it kinda makes me sick.
Relationships were pushed in my face, and EVERY COUPLE was making out in the friggin’ hallway and god! No one wants to see that!
Usually, the only thing I look forward to on Febuary is Chinese New Year (YEAH!)
I don’t like how it adds more stress to couples (Single, and proud of it). I usually only complain about the holiday when I hear a “taken” person complain on how they “HAVE TO” buy a gifl for a significant other..
Why not make one? And make the holiday less Hallmark?
-Kunoichi
valentines day is just ridiculous. why do couples need a day to celebrate their love and commintment for one another on this day? isn’t that what anniversaries for? and anniversaries are much more personal, so that makes them a hundred times better than valentines day.
isn’t it a holiday because some guy named valentine was marrying couples who wanted to get married even though the government or whoever wouldn’t let them? i’m pretty sure that’s the reason why. in which case, velentines days is strictly for coulpes. single people can celebrate it, sure, but it’s really not for them. where is the holiday for single people? no one ever does stuff for single people, but couples get all kinds of goodies. not fair, in my opinion.
i have a bf, btw.
here is what i found on valentines day:
“One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men — his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.
According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first ‘valentine’ greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl — who may have been his jailor’s daughter — who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed ‘From your Valentine,’ an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It’s no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.
While some believe that Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine’s death or burial — which probably occurred around 270 A.D — others claim that the Christian church may have decided to celebrate Valentine’s feast day in the middle of February in an effort to ‘christianize’ celebrations of the pagan Lupercalia festival. In ancient Rome, February was the official beginning of spring and was considered a time for purification. Houses were ritually cleansed by sweeping them out and then sprinkling salt and a type of wheat called spelt throughout their interiors. Lupercalia, which began at the ides of February, February 15, was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.
To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at the sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would then sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification.”
it then goes on to say some crazy shit about boys slapping women with pieces of dead bloody goat and the women getting jazzed about it because they believed it would make them more fertile, and they were all for poping out a shit load of babies.
i don’t MIND valentine’s day… but it seems to give an excuse to people to not do those kinds of nice little things on all the other days of the year… because now there’s a day designated for it so why bother all the other days….
that…. and i’m in high school so when valentine’s day comes along and you don’t have a lover… you’re just plain weird.
either way… i don’t do valentine’s day…
singles awareness day is not supposed to be bitter like that. Valentine’s day is not about couples anyway. The only thing I have against calling it Singles Awareness Day is that it turns out to be S.A.D. Why not call it V-day and have a go at making some vendetta quips……
i agree with daavidd ^ there, but i agree that a lot of single ppl complain about valentine’s day for the sake of complaining. sure you may have to watch your friends get roses or talk about their dinner plans (which i don’t exactly agree is a burden for couples like i think you said) but it’s not that hurtful if it is at all. plus it’s just one day — one in which couples are reminded to express their love (or sometimes lust, depending on the scenario) for one another, and if that makes people feel more loved then there’s nothing wrong with that.
This folks is just another post,another example if you will,of how people can be so Oblivious to other people’s feelings. This post isn’t funny,and I’m honestly not surprised that there are people here who do find it funny,because honestly if you do,you’re in the same category of people who are oblivious. This post is nothing but Degrading to those that are hurting because they are single,and what more it comes from a female which basically proves my next point that it seems to me in my experience that if a female gets hurt that it’s okay for them to whine and complain and be depressed and angry about being single,but when a guy feels the same way….all of a sudden they shouldn’t feel the same way? it’s not okay for them to?
People like the one who posted this,and those that find it funny need to wake up and smell the freshly made coffee. They need to realize that there are others out there besides themselves,they arent the only ones in this world,and that other people have feelings too. I honestly am not sorry at this point if my post sounds bitter,because I think that that is the only way I can get my point across to anyone nowdays. it’s time people started learning respect for other people’s feelings.
Great post!
Sounds like you’ve never been the only one in the room Valentine-less. It’s really kind of depressing when everyone’s cooing over what they got for Valentine’s Day and you’ve got like… one paper Valentine from your best friend. It also sounds like you’ve never had a guy dare his friend to go out with you. Yet, that’s not the reason I hate Valentine’s Day! I hate Valentine’s Day because so many people look on it as a requirement to prove love, and if you really love someone and he really loves you back, there’s no need for proving it. So contragtulations for pointing that out as well, but as much as you complain about people complaining about Valentine’s Day, have you noticed your doing it too?
u is to fine
its funny to read/hear/listen to what people think about Valentine’s Day. alot of people really miss the point of it and i think its due to personal experiences. and the question that always gets me is” why do people wait til the day comes along to express their love to someone else?” umm..well answer this…why do you wait til your birthday to celebrate life? just like celebrating love, you can celebrate life everyday. or better yet, why do we wait until the 4th thursday of the month to celebrate thanksgiving? again, you can give thanks everyday. this is just how life is set up, we have a special day to give thanks, we have a special day to celebrate life, and we have a special day to celebrate love. so quit being so damn bitter and just embrace the day for its worth!
OMG that is an awsome post!
OMG That is an awsome post!
hello can you give me some eprops?
maddie
“”It’s just another day,” you whine. So if it’s just another day, why are you spending so much time and thought bitching about it?”
hello? then why did you write a whole post on valentine’s day bitching about people bitching on valentine’s day?
Valentine’s doesn’t really mean much to me so I just let it pass like any other day.
I talked to a married couple. The wife said she was going to the gym, picking up the kids, making dinner, doing laundry, putting the kids to bed, and then going to bed herself.
Interesting entry.
You know if that couple just communicate better, they’d just stay home, not care about what everyone else thinks, and enjoy time with the kids and with eachother. And they’d save money.
I ignore it every year.
“”"”"Husband: “Well I’m going to drop $200 on long stemmed roses because if I do anything less, everyone in the office will be horrified even though it’s none of their goddamn business. Then I’m going to take her to dinner at some place in the city and spend another $200 easily on tiny portions of food that neither of us will be able to see nor enjoy because it’s too damn little, and that the restaurant yesterday and tomorrow will only charge $100 for but because today is VALENTINE’S DAY they can get away with doubling the prices. I’ll hand her a bag from the jeweler I know she likes, but since we’ve been married 15 years, there isn’t any piece of jewelry I can get her that she really really wants but I have to in order to get laid and she’ll open it and coo over it, thank me. Then we’ll go home after she’s had a bit too much to drink, have sex, and drop to sleep hoping the kids don’t come in and see us passed out.”
Wife: “He’ll probably send me some roses, which I’ve told him a million times not to because I HATE ROSES, and everyone at the office will be up in my business asking me if he’s going to get lucky tonight and what else he’s planned and what we’re doing, then I’ll have to sit through dinner at the worst place in the city because he made reservations at the last minute after I told him 3 months ago what restaurant I really wanted to go to, without regard to this stupid “holiday” and then he’ll pull out a bag from the jeweler he thinks I like, and I’ll have to swallow my grimace and coo over a piece of ugly jewelry and he’ll look all hopeful like he’s going to get lucky tonight while I’m actually wishing we’d stayed home, spent some quality time with the kids, and put all this money towards that new washer/dryer I’ve been eyeing for a while, and the new dishwasher… I’ll keep drinking until I’m just tipsy enough that later on, when he makes his clumsy signature move that is the reason I fell in love with him, I’ll actually relent and let him have sex with me even though I haven’t felt sexy since I gave birth to the third kid who weighed over 10 lbs… and the whole time I’ll be thinking about all the shit I have to get done the next day that I couldn’t do today because we HAD TO celebrate VALENTINE’S DAY.”"”"”
You know, there is people in this world that would kill for that companionship, to be able to devote their thought process to their spouse as much as this couple does, even if it isnt the most positive thing. Bland times in love is better than no love im sure.
@Luscious_Life - Hahaha, out of all these comments, yours made me smile/chuckle the most.
I reminded friends about V-Day as a kid… to my surprise one of them actually forgot about the cards.
@wahwah_yk - Because her complaining actually makes sense? This post is aimed towards people who whine all the time. Unless she’s a hypocrite, I wouldn’t think she whined about whiners all the time since she wrote this post. Benefit of the doubt is all.
i must say ..i totally agree! well at least with the whole complaining about being single thing ..i mean i used to do that but seriously the day is supposed to be about love and you dont necessarily have to have a bf/gf!! its not called single’s awareness day for a reason! and now that little title is getting on my nerves! but vday’s over now ..but for sure i was spreading the love despite my being single ..cuz thats what we’re supposed to be doing anyway! ..even if we dont get the day off!
Haha even with all the commercialism of Valentines Day, I still love it. I mean as a girl, what’s NOT to like about a day where men dote attention on you (regardless of if they do it regularly or not)? Granted, I’m at that point in my relationship where it doesn’t matter if we go to the high end places, if theres roses or what not but I take advantage of the day when I can. Maybe not in the day of atrocious prices but there is nothing wrong with the following week celebration. I take in my romance when I can. They say the levels decline drastically once you age and are married.. so why not reap in the benefits when you’re young and still “allowed” to be selfish.
Haha loved your entry though, it was filled with the cynicism of single people and married folks yet you’re so nonchalent about the day. That said, isn’t it better to have someone special on V-Day? I always enjoy it more with somebody rather than alone or with a tub of ice cream.
wow — i totally agree…thanks for posting!!
I LOVE BEING SINGLE! no need to prepare a whole day for anyone and just chill
I completely agree.
בכל זמן ובכל עת אדם צריך שיהיה לו לפחות סוכך אחד בבית אם זה במרפסת או בחצר, סוכך הוא פתרון קל ומקצועי להרבה בעיות שאדם נתקל בהם במקומות כאלו
Maybe when you were single you got valentines, but most of us aren’t that lucky. Valentine’s day sucks and you have no right to criticize us single people for being upset.
I’d rather have that pressure any day than get as depressed as I do.
“SO DON’T FEEL BAD.” Easier said than done; it’s not like I try to get sad…I try to avoid it if possible.
Some people just can’t handle being lonely, and I’m one of them. I’m sorry if my feelings don’t matter to you.
well just so you know for valentine’s day i did….nothing!
i’m single, didnt feel sad about it, didnt bitch about or nothing.
i think it is a hallmark-ish holiday and i didnt buy anyone anything.
so no offense cause i dont know you but throwing out the generalizations that you did was kinda ignorant.
Yeah, it’s pointless. You don’t need a day to tell someone they love you or vise versa. However it does suck when you’re the only person staying home because you’re single and you’re left thinking about last year when you weren’t. You seem a little high and mighty about being in a relationship. Cool for you, don’t act like you know everything about how it feels to be single on vday. That’s just stupid.
lol wow
Great post. You pretty much took the thoughts about valentines day right out of my brain and typed them up on xanga in words.
Yet people still bitch to you in this post…
“YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE”
“I WISH I HAD A BOYFRIEND STILL, IT’S DIFFERENT”
“WAAHHHHH”
Why doesn’t everybody shut the hell up about it, if it’s such an awful holiday why are you all defending why you’re upset on valentine’s day?
i think you have a good point but you come off as a little condescending. you’re lucky you have someone to spend time with, whether its on a holiday or just a regular day… some people never find true love or even just someone to care about them in the romantic way. ya digg? i dont know your circumstances but from what you say that you are your bf are okay, then.. you’re very lucky to have someone who cares about you.
Yeah. You sound just like everyone else does on the inside sometimes. Your an honest person and I will let you in on a little secret, you probably don’t get much on valentines day because of how honest you are. Your kinda spiting peoples thoughts right back in there own face. A girl version of Eminem.
Valentine’s Day on the balcony of the Casa Rosada might be fun
soooooo true!
frens were saying “both of u are terrible” when they found out neither of us did anything for each other….=.= but at least WE were happy…:)
Happy belated single day! =] PS. Enjoy Argentina! =]
Cute entry. my boyfriend and i were in a dollar store a few days before valentines, and we heard the radio say that like six million couples break up on valentines and there was this lady that was just like, “mmm-hmm.” It was pretty funny. it’s really true, when you’re in a relationship, sometimes you do feel more pressure for things to be perfect on valentines. But… it is just another day.
Actually, I like valentines day. Its not to make single people feel bad, its not for young couples who do romantic stuff anyway… Its for the married slobs that dont do anything romantic because most of them need a big neon sign that says “BUY YOUR WOMAN FLOWERS” before the thought will even occur to them. THAT is why we have valentines day. I know that some people dont need the reminder, or the pressure… But… some people REALLY do! You have to admit, we all say that we are going to spice things up, and keep the marriage alive, but to be perfectly honest… We are all procrastinators. If we have a special day for it, then we’re more likely to crack open the champagne, dig out the lingerie, and book a babysitter. However, on second thought… Anniversaries would work too…
blah blah blah… V-day is cool and all, but I broke up with my girlfriend that night so for me it sucked.
It just puts pressure on you to spend money and be super romantic.
what if you fail?
who cares I guess, there are more important things in life than V-day.
PS, did you steal “singles awareness day” from me??? I thought I invented that term?
I guess not.
is it worse to be single and bitch about valentines day, or to be in a relationship and bitch about single people bitching about valentines day. just trying to throw a different perspective on the whole thing. interesting stuff tho
Yeah, I didn’t feel bad on Valentine’s Day even though I’M SINGLE! (and ready to mingle) *hint, hint*
Me and my boyfriend always work on V-day. We never bother asking for it off. And I would hate to go out to eat and they have that “limited menu” and everything is more expensive than usual.. I am a super picky eater so I’d rather just save the quality time for the weekend, order a pizza and watch some CSI reruns =] But yeah, we work together and everyone always asks what we’re doing and we always say nothing and they think we’re weird lol. I don’t even feel like it’s the greeting card industry, it’s everyone you KNOW that’s saying “Ohhhh what’s he getting you?” I didn’t even want anything but he felt the need to order some jewelry.
This V-day was the first time we actually went “out”. I was in the hospital all day visiting my grandfather. My boyfriend got off work at midnight, picked me up and we went out for a couple of drinks and some buffalo wings. Now that’s my kind of V-day.
If you think this about valentines day, I would love to see you write a post about engagement rings.
Too damn brilliant.
I’m single and I’m not really sure how to phrase this quite well:
It’s just that people have assigned it one.
I agree, and Valentine’s Day is just another day to me. It’s a day. The sun rises and sets, and at night the moooon comes out (The mooon! Who knew?!).
Oh, why doth ye feel the imperative to blow last month’s paycheck on a few flowers that’ll die in a week? I mean, a sweet gesture, indeed, but nonetheless, why this one day? Why not any other day?
Love has no agenda.
It’s a day. That’s all it is (essentially)to me. Okay, so I’m a little more aware that the florists and chocolatiers are doing unusually good business that day, and that quite a few people seem to be decked out in red (ugh – even the people who should never wear that horrific pink that clashes with their skin/hair), and that even more people -hopeful singles included- seem to be goo-goo-ga-ga-eyed. It’s a day. I roll my eyes and get on with whatever else.
If I ever happen to fall into some unfortunate romantic entanglement, I would try not to expect anything from my significant other on the big VD (unfortunately, not the invasion of Normandy). It’d show how sweet he was if he did pull out a box of chocolates or a pair of tickets to wherever, but it’d show how smart he was if he took me out for dinner the day after. Or the week after. Whenever prices would be the most opportune.
I seem to take an uncanny delight in commenting on old posts. D:
Whatever. Enjoy. Or completely masticate.
Mad props to you girl and forget the fools who read this and didn’t take from it what was meant! That just means they don’t get it. I wrote a similar paper for my Eng450 class…I’ve attached it for your enjoyment (seems from the way you write, you might get a kick outta it)
VD (the day, not the disease!)
VD©
Valentines Day. Love it or hate it, we get to celebrate every year. For those who are attached when this holiday rolls around, it can mean chocolates, fuzzy Teddy bears, flowers and mushy cards. For those cursed to be alone (or whose significant other is brain-dead) this is a slap in the face with a barrel full of love that you aren’t feeling.
For those of us not feeling the love, the entire month of February is like swimming in a sea of pink hearts and pretty flowers. It’s disgusting and irritating. Mainly because we are all secretly wishing that we would get a card, a flower or some other generic sign of affection from someone; anyone.
When that sign doesn’t come; because, let’s face it, we all know its not but still have hope by some fate of colliding planets, that it will, we become bitter. We say things like ‘who cares, it’s just a way to get people to spend money’ or ‘there goes another Hallmark holiday’ (both true). And we try to bring down the happiness of those around us so we don’t feel left out. Pathetic and childish, I know, but we can’t help it.
Now onto the lucky fools that are blessed enough to have a sweetie on V-Day. I know I sound cynical to you and I kind of am but I’m willing to explore the positives.
On the few occasions I did receive something for St. Valentines Day, I remember the overwhelming feeling of joy and exclusivity that came with the little note attached to the flower when it was delivered to my third period Social Studies class. Everyone asking who it was from and what it said. Never mind the fact that one of the two times that happened, I was the sender and receiver.
But with that aside, I’ll never forget the first time I got a Valentine from someone other than myself or a friend. I came home from another depressing V-Day at school and to my wonderment, there lying on my bed was a tiny box of Russell Stover chocolates and the fluffiest, pure white Teddy bear with a velvet red heart right where the heart should be. I was really excited because that was the most I’d ever seen to me from someone else on this day. I opened the little card in the Teddy’s hand and it read, “To Ashley, Happy Valentines Day. Love, Dad!”
Now, I know I should have been ecstatic still, but the fact that I was 14 and my dad was the only boy thinking of me enough to send a Valentine was slightly disturbing. What was wrong with me?
To this day, I still get a Valentine from Dad and to this day, I still have not gotten a Valentine from any other boy regardless of my love situation. Even this year, the guy I’m with didn’t so much as make a card. He did say ‘Happy Valentines Day’ but nothing else. Yes, I still feel a twang of bitterness but when my boy called me at work to say those words it was better than anything he could have bought or made. He didn’t have to call me and say it but he did. That gesture made me feel more special than any other Valentine could.
So whether you get one or not, I guess that’s not the point. Because I’ve gotten them and I wasn’t too thrilled with them anyway. I guess the point is to acknowledge the love that is there. Not dwell on the love that isn’t. And no gift, or card or amount of candy can replace the feeling that comes with sincere V-day wishes.
It’s a story of mine. I wear the links of london in my whole life. No one knows why I love so much the ring. I also don’t know why. We even don’t know what his name is and how old he is and where he come and went. It really likes a ridiculous story. But I have a proof that is the links of london jewellery ring. It’s neither a dream nor a girl’s imagination. I don’t know if you can see this article, if you can remember the period happiness, I hope you can have a happy life.